TODO

Trauma lives deep in our bodies and our nervous systems. Bodies have a lot of wisdom and shutting down in the face of danger and harm is one of the wisest things that bodies do to protect themselves during and after trauma. We develop all kinds of coping protective shutting-down mechanisms, and one of them is dissociating during sex & intimacy & even just sitting close to someone. Pushing through the shutdown TODO

I will work with you to somatically find ways your body might be dissociating, all within the safe consentful container of our sessions. Talking and intellectually understanding our traumas only goes so far in helping us with our healing. But we can somatically rewire our bodies and nervous systems to discern between safe and unsafe situations and slowly develop a relationship with our bodies that lets us have a gentler kinder conversation with our bodies

Finding presence and fuller awareness of your body’s pleasure and desires during sex & intimacy can feel impossible for some of us. It can feel very frustrating to not be able to connect with our body’s sexual erotic self even when we are craving intimacy and closeness. Through trauma our body learns to shut down and protect itself from harm – and that includes shutting down sexual expression and pleasure. We can’t just talk or think ourselves out of trauma and shutdown – trauma is a somatic experience and somatics are shown to be highly successful at healing from trauma, especially physical and sexual trauma. I will guide you through your body to finding exactly where trauma lives in your body and how it shows up somatically – and to find ways to have somatic conversations with the hurt. It can feel like such a distant idea – to identify where trauma lives in your body – and when you feel that moment of arrival and knowing, it can be transformative.